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Thursday, August 8, 2024

Self-Compassion

Our culture has taught us to say negative things about ourselves; we are taught to put others first and to measure our value based on what we do rather than who we are. Many of us were taught that giving ourselves the benefit of the doubt is selfish, weak, and will kill motivation. This mindset leads to mental distress and decreased self-worth. Learning self-compassion is arguably one of the biggest changes we can make for our mental health. Kristin Neff, an expert in self-compassion, states that self-compassion is comprised of 3 elements: mindfulness, common humanity, and kindness. 

Mindfulness helps us view ourselves and our circumstances as they are, without judgment; this leads to increased acceptance, less shame, and more compassion towards ourselves. We tend to be more compassionate towards those we love than we do towards ourselves. 

Common humanity can help us recognize that we are human and that it is okay to struggle and make mistakes, allowing us to see ourselves with the compassion we willingly give our loved ones. 

Kindness helps people to keep going when life is hard, to try again, and to believe in one's abilities; kindness towards oneself means becoming our own cheerleader and encouraging ourselves to keep going. 


Self-compassion can feel challenging and awkward because it goes against what we have been taught culturally, but it is important for mental health. Self-compassion doesn't necessarily mean adding something else to our list of things that need to be done; being intentional, non-judgmental, and changing how we word things can have a substantial impact. The difference may be as simple as saying, "I'm tired and am honoring what my body is telling me by resting" instead of saying, "I'm so lazy, I didn't do anything last night." We have worth because we exist, and self-compassion helps us recognize this truth and thus improves mental health.


Rebecca Malan, LMSW


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Monday, August 5, 2024

Neurofeedback

 




Living with Pain

Living with pain can be debilitating at times. Pain is produced by the brain. The way it’s processed overlaps with emotions and when the body is in pain, it releases stress hormones and neurochemicals, making it harder to regulate mood and behavior.

But how does it affect one's mental health? Acute pain can cause emotional distress and anxiety, having a negative impact on the quality of life. When acute pain is not treated effectively, it can lead to chronic pain. Chronic pain can lead to depression, anxiety, and substance use disorders. Chronic pain can also affect sleep, increase stress, and limit the ability to enjoy life. This leads to feelings of isolation and frustration, leading to depression.

Without the ability to get pain under control, a person’s quality of life is greatly diminished and their mental health can be greatly affected. Psychotherapy and medication can help. There is always hope.

Valerie P’Pool, LCSW



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