How is it that some people can
thrive after a traumatic event and others seem to be stuck forever? Dr. Edith
Egar survived living in a Nazi concentration camp. Following her liberation
from Auschwtiz death camp, she has learned how to overcome the guilt and grief of
surviving when so many others did not and she has liberated herself from her
trauma. Dr. Egar has found a way to embrace hope and forgive others. Dr. Egar
has four questions that she asks to help herself and her clients move forward
and build a new life after experiencing trauma. The questions appear simple at
first but one soon learns that answering them takes self-reflection and soul
searching. The four questions are:
- What do you want? This question is harder than it looks. To find an answer, it is necessary to look deep within, stripping away layers of self-delusions and the needs and wants of others.
- Who wants it? Are we defining ourselves through the expectations of others?
- What are you going to do about it? Dr. Egar notes that, “Anything we practice, we become better at. If we practice anger, we will have more anger. If we practice fear, we’ll have more fear.” Are we moving toward our goals, or spending lots of energy just spinning our wheels? “Change is about noticing what’s no longer working and stepping out of the familiar, imprisoning patterns.”
- When? Plans are great; but if we never start walking, we never reach our destination. Dr. Egar relates “If we are to evolve instead of revolve, it’s time to take action now.”
To learn more you can read Dr.
Egar’s book The Choice or visit her website at https://dreditheger.com
by
Tiffany Hayner LMSW