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Friday, June 30, 2017
Monday, June 19, 2017
Why In The World Do We Treat Ourselves So Poorly?
Have you ever
been asked to identify your strengths or things that you like about
yourself? This seems to be a very difficult question for most
people. It seems that if we ask individuals to name things that they
don't like about themselves then they can give us a list a mile long and the
attributes come to them quickly. Here are a few suggestions that we can use
to help us increase our self-esteem and quiet the negative voice lurking in our
heads.
Instead of using black and white thinking
practice self-compassion and allow for shades of gray. This will help us
accept our short comings and still help us work toward being our best self.
Instead of using inflated praise look for
feedback that fosters a growth mindset and will inspire us.
Stop comparing ourselves to others. We
are as unique as our thumbprint. Look for opportunities to help others
get back on their feet which in turn gives us a sense of self efficacy.
We cannot derogate the success of others and
instead look at their success as a boon rather than a threat can help us bask
in reflected glory.
Seeking social approval can also
decrease our self-esteem. We can instead remind ourselves that no matter
what we do or don't do, someone is likely to disapprove. Being true to
ourselves is more likely to lead to healthy self-esteem than pleasing others.
I love the song by Alessia Cara, Scars to Your Beautiful, "But
there's a hope that's waiting for you in the dark. You should know you're
beautiful just the way you are. And you don't have to change a thing
the world could change its heart. No scars to your beautiful, we're stars
and we're BEAUTIFUL".
April Moedl LCSW
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