Child
sexual abuse is far more prevalent than most people realize. Nearly 1 in 10
children will become a victim of sexual abuse before turning 18 and our little
community within Southeastern Idaho is not exempt from this prevalence. This
number might not seem too high, but consider that nearly 60% of sexually abused
children never even disclose their abuse. Currently it is estimated that only
38% of sexually abused children will come forward with their abuse to a trusted
adult; therefore, it is hard to estimate how prevalent child sexual abuse truly
is when merely looking at the current data available to the public.
I have
found that most parents are shocked to learn about the risk factors for child
sexual abuse and are willing to do their best to keep their children safe.
There is often a misconception about who can be trusted around children versus
who cannot be trusted around children. 90% of child sexual abuse victims know
their perpetrator. This means that only 10% of child sexual abuse cases occur
with a stranger that the victim is not affiliated with. Abusers will look for
opportunities to get close to children and will often groom the parents before
gaining the chance to groom and perpetrate on a child. This means that abusers
are often neighbors, family friends and family members, affiliates through
church, and affiliates through recreational activities.
I find that it is vital that
parents learn about these dangers, so that they can be more aware of just how
easy it is for a perpetrator to gain access to children. The next step is to minimize
opportunities whenever possible. It is important to recognize the grooming
process and how quickly it can happen. Parents need to have open dialogue with
their children about the dangers of sexual predators, because sexual abuse is
often secretive in nature. If a parent or caregiver is uncomfortable talking
about sexual abuse, their children will most likely struggle to come forward if
abuse has occurred. Parents need to also watch for behavioral and emotional
changes within a child. Children of sexual abuse will start to exhibit signs of
anxiety, fear, depression, and have unexplained rebellion and anger. Lastly, it
is most important to listen when a child comes forward with sexual abuse along
with getting in touch with local law enforcement to report the abuse.
The therapy staff at Rehabilitative Health Services is
committed to keeping children safe and teaching parents about the dangers of
child sexual abuse. We are a trauma informed therapy staff and have specialty
training to work with victims of child sexual abuse and childhood trauma. To
learn more about our psychotherapy services please contact our office at
208-523-5319.
Stephanie Shirley- LMSW
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